There may be a more elegant way to do this, which I will probably think of as soon as I answer this, but achieving the desired values is possible.
Add your X/Y control, along with 2 sliders (or crossfaders) and a button (toggle). Set your pad as a supercontrol, add a fader as a subcontrol to each axis, and add the button as a subcontrol to both axis. Set the CC numbers of the sliders to the appropriate controllers. Under the "Relationships" tab for both axis, set "Button Off Sets to Default" to your button.
Touching the X-Y control will turn the button on, and the sliders will send your actual values. Turning the toggle button off will reset both axis to the default value, and of course any changes from there will be relative to the default. So, in practice, you'll use the X-Y pad and leave the button in the on state. When you're ready to use it again, click the button off to set the default values before using the pad.
Does that cover your needs?